Feelings cannot always be traded online. The thrill at the sound of the ocean, or goosebumps at the sight of an art gallery, even the hype and smell of a movie theatre—the buttery popcorn, the excited whispers, and dreamy exits—where have they gone? How can we cope with our lives now that they are no longer accessible?
Here lies a generation who suffer through the impact of COVID-19 pandemic. They are left alone, lost, and angry with all that has been stolen away from them, including the loss of their desire to prepare for a brighter future. However, a method to revive people’s spirits can certainly be implemented to help them through these tough times. Enter self-help books, saviour of the mental wellbeing of our time. Here are some of the reasons why.
1. Self-help books are a good substitute for companionship
Isolate a person for an unspecified period, multiply that by enormous grief and mourning, and the result might just be a feeling of extreme loneliness. We have all experienced being a part of something big, like walking in a crowd. A general, collective sense of how things are going permeates the air because of that physical presence. There is an unspoken sense of belonging within the pages that mere computer interactions cannot fully replace. It is that same social need that pushes us to reach out, only to feel even more empty when friends and family are too exhausted to respond in a meaningful way.
This is where self-help books can come into play. Their primary purpose is to help you feel mentally uplifted. The tone of voice used in these books is styled to be therapeutic, credible, and hopeful to establish a connection between the authors and the readers. Whatever your friends used to say to tug at the right heart strings to make you feel better, self-help authors do a good job of mirroring that friendship and camaraderie. It provides you companionship because these authors care enough to spend the time to flesh out the words that fit you best.
Another positive to these books is that they are always going to be in full power and never half-hearted or disinterested. So, for however long the pandemic is going to last, these books will always be there for you. By reading self-help books, you can explore different solutions relevant to your day-to-day struggles. Objectivity, therefore, is a big part of what self-help authors are all about!
2. Increase concentration for study
In the climate of a health crisis, anxiety is bound to touch every person. It disturbs the mind continuously in whatever activity we do. Sleeping, studying, working, playing—we are distracted by the external forces that make us feel unsettled. That worry will drain our energy to the point of a complete burnout. Without energy, we lose focus, and without focus comes an endless loop of more distraction. This can result in an overall decrease in our standards of living.
Self-help books are often associated with topics that tackle the psychological needs most people commonly have. So, the likelihood that we find answers to our problems is considerably big. If the contents of the books successfully resolve those problems, you are bound to feel free from the burdens that previously held you back from your optimum potential. Feelings of motivation will start to emerge. Inspiration to learn may even come next in line. What’s important is that you can get more things done with less stress and this can reward you with a feeling of self-actualisation.
3. Ability to predict an accurate future
If you have witnessed a life-altering moment vanish before your eyes because of the pandemic, then trust me, you’re not alone. The uncertainty this adds to the exponential growth of the technological, social, and economic state demands us to question what our roles are for the future. We’re obligated to be more careful, more innovative, and efficient. Otherwise, you risk missing potential opportunities that might help you advance. To become that person, we must practice self-reflection.
This daunting task should not be hard if you read self-help books. They are typically research based, with most writers basing their key points on studies of the past. Potential scenarios of your future are likely to recur since human life trajectories often repeat themselves. With predictions all mapped out, there is a better possibility that you can respond from an inward perspective, whatever the external circumstances may be. It is the certainty from within that prepares you for any storm.
Self-help books act as moral compasses. They either strengthen or challenge your beliefs but lead you to the right places. In such an unstable state, we can help others to head there too. But that does not mean we should be drained of all energy as we try to achieve that goal.
There are merits to reading such an unglamorous genre—you also learn about the human psyche and, inevitably, yourself and others at the same time.
Ego is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday and 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey were the two books that beat my heart into shape in times where the world seemed so deserted, fragile, and chaotic. Similar books such as: The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down by Haemin Sunim; Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert; The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor; Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell; and Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch, are a few options among millions of others on the self-help shelf. These books can be a refuge worth seeking in turn for such a peaceful outcome.